The other night my best friend and I had a disagreement. I was anxious and so was he. We both were hurt by each other. It was heartbreaking. I read the bible today and like a ton of bricks a thought crossed my mind. I’ll tell you more about the thought in a minute. First, let’s look at the scripture I read. Avid bible readers have already heard this one. It reads:
Finally, brethren whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise think on these things. Philippians 4:8 KJV
So, where did I get stuck? I’ll take Good Report, for $200 Alex.
I’ve noted that the context of this scripture takes some detailed analysis. I asked myself what is a good report?
The answer God showed me is shocking.
Sometimes a good report isn’t all that virtuous. What is lovely about mistake, anxiety, depression, loneliness, or deceit?
There’s nothing good about these things for men and women if you’re trying to disguise it.
But the heading over the passage is “Peace with God”. If we want a good report, honesty will cost a lot of money, time, and relationship.
People believe that to have many friends means “success”. However, I don’t think I want everyone to be my friend because not everyone who becomes my friend is going to value what I value. The bible also says a friend is closer than a brother. He or she knows you, flaws and all, and accepts you as you are.
Honesty costs a great debt. Just because everyone knows you, does that mean you’re honest? Honesty is so rare that most people who are really honest are usually “unattractive”. People seem to label them unworthy of association at times.
When I argued with my friend, he told me the truth. The truth shamed me so much that I rushed to defense. That’s when I learned that a good report is not about covering your errors. JESUS died so that he could cover your errors. He knew in advance that humans were crazy. Jesus knew that people also tend to become reflections of those people that they rely on for support. It does not matter how lovely you are, the wrong supporter can affect your vision.
When you’re disabled and struggling to be accepted and validated, sometimes you can be blind to a good report coming from an honest person. That’s because many of the disabled are conditioned from birth to be wary of accepting guidance from the wrong place. Most disabled people are easy magnets for abuse and neglect. In closing, a good report is not always about goodness. A good report is about facts and fairness, and looks are deceiving. Beware of the labyrinth of words; be willing to search deeper for the message.
I pray for the broken, lost, struggling, and tender hearted as Christmas gets closer. For the lonely and broke, it’s hard to be too glad about lights and trees, when you’re hungry and struggling and worried about the arthritis in your knees.
God bless the broken!