I used to believe that anger was useless and I had no right to be angry with anyone for any reason. However, anger is not something that you let build up over time. Anger is something that must be expressed. Google Search defines anger as an intense feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility. I have had to learn that anger left unexpressed and un-admitted is not healthy for a growing and maturing human being.
The bible even advocates that anger is important to own, especially if you want to tell the truth to your neighbor.
Ephesians 4:25-29 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. 26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27 neither give place to the devil. 28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth
The sad thing is: Some of us would rather lie about being angry at someone or something, rather than to address exactly where the anger we have originated from.
In short, if your anger is real, do yourself a favor and admit it. Wrath is extreme anger, and wrath definitely occurs when we fail to admit several instances in which we got angry. When we admit our anger to ourselves and others, we make a declaration that evil will not darken our heart. Jesus said: “The peacemaker shall be called a child of God. In order to make peace, we must know when to fight and when not to fight. There are some battles in life that result in a Pyrrhic victory. This is a victory that is of little worth to the winner, because it wastes valuable time and resources.
In our anger, we must never resort to sweeping decisions or meaningless extremes.
Anger is a temptation that must be controlled. There are plenty of people who get angry at the drop of a hat. Their anger drives away men and women who might otherwise help them through it. The first step to fixing a problem is admitting you have a problem. However, angry people often state that the other person that notices the anger is the one who has a “problem”.
Christians are instructed to test the character of each situation individually, and hold on to the good that is yielded from that situation. How can we look for the good if we have yet to resolve the bad.
The spirit of darkness can claim the lives of many Christians, and anger left un-hinged gives way to pride, lust, competition, greed, and many other things that pull us away from our Christian destiny.
It’s difficult to have a mind of gratefulness and praise when you associate with angry people.
Proverbs 22:24-25 Make no friendship with an angry man;
and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
25 lest thou learn his ways,
and get a snare to thy soul.
If you’d like to guard your heart, you must stay away from people who are prone to violent outburst. Every time they get angry, you become the victim of the violence this anger produces.
How do we increase the chances of not sinning as we are angered?
We do so by first acknowledging the problem. Then, we communicate with the person we are angry with. We also forgive ourselves for letting our temper get the best of us. Finally, once we reach a resolution…we forgive the person that offended us. What do you do when the person throws the anger in your face? Be kind to them all the more so that others may see God’s example when they observe your actions. The goal in all communication is to edify, build, and inform.